About the Episode
The guest of this episode is Amal Killawi, author of the first journal article on marriage preparation among Muslims in the United States. Pulling from 32 in-depth interviews with married couples, divorced individuals, therapists, and Imams, this conversation explores how Muslim couples prepare for and make the decision to get married.
More About the Research
In her research, Amal Killawi aimed to explore the variety of perceptions and preparatory actions taken by American Muslims in the times leading up to their marriage. To do so, Killawi conducted 32 in-depth interviews with married and divorced Muslims, as well as Imam and therapists, to garner unique insight into how Muslims are preparing for marriage across the United States.
Findings Explored in This Episode
- Courtship is often short and riddled with various challenges.
- Premarital counseling with an imam or therapist is not a common occurrence or requirement by imams.
- Many people avoid seeking premarital counseling due to the stigma of therapy, a lack of awareness, and the expenses.
- Family and community efforts are necessary to normalize marriage preparation.
Methods & Measures
- The study was conducted among 16 females and 16 males. 16 were Arab, 8 were Black, 6 were South Asian, and 2 were categorized as “other.” Of the participants, 10 were married, 10 were divorced, 6 were imams, and 6 were therapists. All participants were based in Southern Michigan.
- The sample size was 32 in total, with each participant receiving an individually recorded in-depth interview on their experiences with marriage and the courting process.
- Interviews were face-to-face, semistructured, and lasted up to two hours.
- During interviews, participants were asked about their courtship process, their decision-making process, and their experiences preparing for marriage through specific activities including consultations with imams and therapists.
- All interviews were audio recorded and transcribed with the exception of one, during which the audio equipment failed. Information was pulled from the interviewer’s field notes instead.
Implications and Practical Takeaways
- If marriage is on your mind or it’s on the horizon for you, make sure that you are prepared! There are many ways to prepare, and no excuses for not being prepared. Whether you’re looking for a book, a lecture, or a step-by-step guide, The FYI has curated an entire Marriage Prep Toolkit for you that includes every one of the marriage prep methods discussed in this episode. Additionally, Prepare to Pair, our marriage prep course that’s received rave reviews, walks you through a wholesome marriage prep journey and is customizable to each couple.
- Parents should be involved in encouraging their kids to prepare for marriage. Family is more often than not very heavily involved in the marriage process, and can have a large impact in ensuring that their child is supported and making healthy, informed decisions as they navigate the courting process.
- If you’re listening as a parent yourself and you’re searching for more resources to support your children through the marriage process, make sure to check out the For Parents section in our Marriage Prep Toolkit, or visit our Before You Say I Do workshop.
Read More About the Research
Funding for data collection related to the study was provided by the Institute for Social Policy and Understanding. Funding for data analysis was provided by The Family and Youth Institute.
Community Brief: Promoting Healthy Marriages & Preventing Divorce in the American Muslim Community