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building blocks of tarbiyah toolkit

How the toolkit was created

This toolkit is grounded in a research-based understanding of how Muslim youth form moral identity and develop virtues over time. At the center of this project is the Theory of Virtue Development, which explores how people make sense of themselves and grow into who they hope to become.

The Self-Concept Framework

Our approach is built around three key dimensions of the self:

  • Actual Self
    • “What I actually am or want to be right now.”
    • These are the traits, behaviors, and values youth currently identify with.
  •  Ideal Self
    • “What I want to want to be.”
    • This is who they aspire to be—shaped by personal goals, dreams, and values.
  •  Ought Self
    • “What my community wants me to be.”
    • These are traits tied to duty, morality, faith, and community expectations.

Cockle, T., Melton, K., Hansen, A., Schnitker, S., and Glanzer, P. (2023).

Developing Character through College Communities Theory of Change [Unpublished manuscript].

Human Sciences & Design, Baylor University.

Toolkit Creation

The Theory of Virtue Development

Each virtue in this toolkit is designed to support youth in this dynamic process. Every section helps users move through three key stages:

1. Know
What do I need to learn to embody this virtue?
This stage supports the deepening of the ought self—connecting knowledge to moral and faith-based values.

2. Enact
How can I put this knowledge into action?
This is where the ideal self and actual self are realigned through concrete practices, habits, and decision-making.

3. Realign
How am I internalizing what I’ve learned?
Here, users reflect on their growth, examine discrepancies between who they are and who they want to be, and move forward with intention.

Zakat eligibility of The FYI

The Family & Youth Institute, or The FYI, is a well-known Muslim organization in the United States. It works to promote mental health and wellness by strengthening and empowering individuals, families, and communities through research and education. It has been working for many years to bring Islamic perspectives to understanding and promoting mental health in our communities.

It is dedicated to serving and supporting Muslims – safeguarding our deen, our families, and our future generations. Therefore, the work of The FYI comes in the category of ‘fi sabeelillah’ or the Path of Allah, within the eight categories where Zakat money can be used.

Zakah expenditures are only for the poor and for the needy and for those employed for it and for bringing hearts together [for Islam] and for freeing captives [or slaves] and for those in debt and for the cause of Allah, and for the [stranded] traveler – an obligation [imposed] by Allah, And Allah, is Knowing and Wise.”
(Al-Tawbah 9:60)

According to scholars who widen the meaning of fee sabeelillah to include any activities that promote Islamic growth, The FYI is indeed eligible to receive part of the Zakat funds for its programs and services. I urge Muslims in America to support this organization through their donations, general charity, and through their Zakat. I ask Allah swt to strengthen and guide The FYI to continue its good work in supporting Muslims.

Shaikh Ali Suleiman Ali, PhD

About Shaikh Ali

Sh. Ali Suleiman Ali was born in Ghana where he spent his childhood studying with various Muslim scholars. He then moved to Saudi Arabia and enrolled in the Islamic University of Madina.  He graduated with a degree in both Arabic and Islamic Studies. Dr. Ali went on to complete his Ph.D. in Islamic Studies at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor.

Sh. Ali serves on the Advisory Council of The Family & Youth Institute. He is the Senior Imam and Director of the Muslim Community of Western Suburbs in Canton, Michigan. Additionally, he serves as the Director of Muslim Family Services in Detroit and is a council member of the Fiqh Council of North America (FCNA). He is also a member of the North American Imams Federation (NAIF) and the Association of Muslim Jurists of America (AMJA).