{"id":6603,"date":"2016-04-13T18:35:29","date_gmt":"2016-04-13T18:35:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/ruin-relationship-teenager\/"},"modified":"2023-10-25T03:27:43","modified_gmt":"2023-10-25T03:27:43","slug":"ruin-relationship-teenager","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/ruin-relationship-teenager\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Ruin Your Relationship With Your Teenager"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One evening my sons came home with the same exclamation, \u201cIt\u2019s amazing how many kids <a href=\"http:\/\/www.themid.com\/family\/9-reasons-your-kids-might-actually-hate-you-when-theyre-grown?u=134\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">hate their parents<\/a>!\u201d We talked for an hour or so about why, and I\u2019ve interviewed several teenagers over the last few months for further clarity.<\/p>\n<p>The good news: most teenagers are very forgiving of parental missteps; they recognize their own faults and readily forgive others\u2019. Even better, in a healthy relationship, teenagers love you for who you are. Yes, they might act embarrassed when you hug them in front of their friends or even drop them off in front of the high school. But they really don\u2019t care if you\u2019re overweight, frumpy or wear outdated clothes.<\/p>\n<p>Even the best of us will recognize our own failings in the following list, but look at it as an opportunity to improve rather than berate yourself. All <a href=\"http:\/\/www.themid.com\/family\/dear-mom-from-your-teenaged-a-hole?u=134\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">relationships take work<\/a>, but your communications with your teenager can be lifesaving. The largest problems can be solved when you have a good relationship, but even the smallest problems can cause disaster when your interactions are filled with tension.<\/p>\n<h5>1. Not Listening<\/h5>\n<p>Years ago, I heard invaluable advice: \u201cOnce your child reaches the age of 13 or 14 they know your opinion of everything under the sun. Your job from now on is to shut up and listen.\u201d I remember feeling a bit defensive the first time I heard this counsel. I had so much knowledge yet to share! And besides, things change\u2014how would I offer my wisdom on future problems? But there\u2019s the crux of it all. Things change. As adults, we think we know all about the teenage world, but our swiftly moving planet has spun beyond our intimate knowledge of the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.themid.com\/culture\/songs-from-your-mothers-station-wagon?u=134\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u201970s<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.themid.com\/t\/80s\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u201980s<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.themid.com\/t\/90s\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u201990s<\/a>. And here\u2019s what I\u2019ve learned: when you take the time to listen, truly listen, your kids will ask your opinion.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.scarymommy.com\/club-mid\/how-to-ruin-your-relationship-with-your-teenager\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Continue Reading<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One evening my sons came home with the same exclamation, \u201cIt\u2019s amazing how many kids hate their parents!\u201d We talked for an hour or so about why, and I\u2019ve interviewed several teenagers over the last few months for further clarity. The good news: most teenagers are very forgiving of parental missteps; they recognize their own [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10835,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[148,139],"tags":[164,36,255],"age":[],"content-type":[],"persona":[],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6603"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6603"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6603\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9860,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6603\/revisions\/9860"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10835"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6603"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6603"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6603"},{"taxonomy":"age","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/age?post=6603"},{"taxonomy":"content-type","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/content-type?post=6603"},{"taxonomy":"persona","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/persona?post=6603"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}