{"id":6771,"date":"2016-04-25T22:17:05","date_gmt":"2016-04-25T22:17:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/3-ways-build-empathy-improve-communication-marriage\/"},"modified":"2016-04-25T22:17:05","modified_gmt":"2016-04-25T22:17:05","slug":"3-ways-build-empathy-improve-communication-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/3-ways-build-empathy-improve-communication-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Ways to Build Empathy and Improve Communication in your Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"ng-scope\">Marriage is hard. The difficulty primarily stems from the frustrating fact that men are from Mars and women are from Venus and, according to my five-year-old who is currently learning about the solar system, \u201cThose planets are\u00a0<em>really, really<\/em>\u00a0different.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"ng-scope\">It\u2019s not news to any couples who\u00a0have\u00a0made a commitment to share a\u00a0life that it\u00a0can\u00a0be painful\u00a0at times. If love is like a flame (as the artists and poets have told us), it has to be deliberately tended to like the Olympic torch, not left to burn out like a 10-cent votive from IKEA.<\/p>\n<p class=\"ng-scope\">In my seven years of marriage, I\u2019ve discovered that this kind of attentiveness is expressed most clearly through empathy. Taking the time and energy to put myself in my husband\u2019s place\u2014and check out the view from Mars\u2014is the only way to avoid near planetary collision.<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t love without knowing, and the path toward knowing involves both seeking and finding through a gauntlet of blood, sweat, and tears. There\u2019s no X-ray machine for this kind of insight, but there is a way to see and be seen, and that is to really look and really share.<\/p>\n<p>Read more at: http:\/\/verilymag.com\/marriage-communication-empathy-gottman-love-languages\/<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Marriage is hard. The difficulty primarily stems from the frustrating fact that men are from Mars and women are from Venus and, according to my five-year-old who is currently learning about the solar system, \u201cThose planets are\u00a0really, really\u00a0different.\u201d It\u2019s not news to any couples who\u00a0have\u00a0made a commitment to share a\u00a0life that it\u00a0can\u00a0be painful\u00a0at times. If [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10732,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[148,137],"tags":[164,342,232,165,173],"age":[],"content-type":[],"persona":[],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6771"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6771"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6771\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10732"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6771"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6771"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6771"},{"taxonomy":"age","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/age?post=6771"},{"taxonomy":"content-type","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/content-type?post=6771"},{"taxonomy":"persona","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefyi.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/persona?post=6771"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}