Feeling like you’re on the edge of losing it or feeling like the weight of everything (baby’s schedule, dishes in the sink, work you have to do today, the list goes on) is on you could point to something called caregiver burnout—a state of mental, physical, and emotional depletion.

Some studies suggest that about 14 percent of parents feel burnout (though figures could be higher), and research finds societal pressure to be a “perfect” parent can further those feelings. But there are ways to help ease the burden of caregiver burnout, spot burnout’s symptoms and signs, and recover from burnout if you’re suffering. Here’s what to do if you’re feeling the pressure.

See how to spot and recover from parental burnout here.