Resources to Help You Decide About a Potential Partner
- June 12th, 2022
These resources will help you work through the decision to move forward with someone, or to end the relationship. Use this list as a final checklist before moving forward.
Remember that no decision is fool-proof, nor can you control the outcome. All you can do is commit to a process of sincerity and thoroughness in your decision-making, and leave the rest in the hands of Allah SWT.
- Istikhara – How To and Why? By Sheikh Abdul Nasir Jangda detailing the purpose and proper application of Istikhara (video here). For a shorter how-to on istikhara, read this.
- Am I Marrying the Right Person? What does it feel like to be in a healthy, compatible relationship?
- How do I Know They are “the One?” The belief that there is one individual who will meet all of your needs is faulty and limiting.
- When You Marry for Four Reasons, Don’t Forget Your Reason: Misconceptions about this classic marriage hadith, and how to apply its wisdom holistically.
- Making Really Hard Decisions: This decision may not be an easy one for you. Explore four pitfalls of difficult decision-making and seven strategies that you can use to make the choice that is best for you.
- Trust Your Gut to Pick Your Partner: How to use your intuition to help guide your decision-making.
- Got Cold Feet? Listen to Your Head: What to do with doubts you may be experiencing.
- 11 Tips to Consider When Proposing for Marriage: Some tips to help you move forward with the proposal.
- Knowing When to Say Goodbye: How to lead your decision-making with a commitment to yourself, first and foremost.
- Ending a Courtship: How to move forward if you decide that the relationship is not right for you. Be nice, be assertive, and set boundaries. “I really appreciated xyz about you. However, the more we got to know each other, the more I realized that we aren’t compatible on xyz, and they are deal breakers for me.”
- How To Reject a Proposal: Listen to this podcast for some tips on how to kindly and respectfully reject a marriage proposal.
- Dealing with Lost Love: Some practical suggestions for dealing with and moving on from a relationship that has ended.
For more resources on how to sort out your decision-making, refer to the “Navigating Your Thoughts and Emotions During Courtship” in Section 5.
Healthy couples and families are the building blocks of thriving communities. If you know a couple who is getting ready to tie the knot, share this blog post with them and encourage them to get premarital counseling!
This blog post is an excerpt from The FYI’s Marriage Prep Toolkit. Check out the full toolkit and The FYI’s very own online marriage prep course here.
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