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The FYI’s Marriage Prep Toolkit

This toolkit will guide you in identifying personal expectations around marriage, navigating courtship, determining compatibility, and making the decision to marry.

The FYI Marriage Prep Toolkit was developed to help you prepare for the commitment of a lifetime. This toolkit will guide you in identifying personal expectations around marriage, navigating courtship, determining compatibility, and making the decision to marry. 


Why Marriage Prep Matters

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What is marriage prep?

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Why prepare for marriage?​​

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Who is marriage prep for?

To create this toolkit, The FYI team selected relevant resources from a variety of platforms while keeping cultural and religious sensitivities in mind. Other content and views expressed on these platforms do not necessarily reflect the vision and views of The FYI. Some resources in this toolkit were developed by individuals who are not licensed counselors, such as content writers and personal coaches. While still incredibly helpful, these resources should not replace the consultation of a trained mental health professional when needed.

Before Meeting Potentials: Personal Preparation

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5 Ways To Soul-Search Before You Spouse-Search

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Should You be Thinking About Marriage?
3 Ways to Know

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How to Talk to Your Family About Marriage

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Prepare to Pair

For the couple that’s courting, engaged, or ready to tie the knot.

Getting to Know Someone: The Courtship Roadmap

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10 Ways to Get to Know Your Partner

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How to Discuss Everything Before Marriage

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Guidelines for Sharing Past, Private, and Personal Experiences with a Partner

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Involving the Family

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How to Talk to Your
Parents About Marriage

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My parents have strict rules for courting. What to do?

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What do if my parents reject my marriage choice?


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Long Distance Relationships

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Intercultural/Interracial Relationships

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During Courtship

For Parents

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Why should your child prepare for marriage?

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How to Parent Your Children Through the Marriage Process

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How Family Communication Styles Impact the Marriage Process


This toolkit is based on content from a marriage prep workshop offered by The FYI. Before You Say “I Do” Workshop is an interactive workshop that helps individuals considering marriage to make informed decisions as they search for a life partner.

This toolkit was authored by Issra Killawi and Amal Killawi, LCSW with help and support from Munira Ezzeddine, MS; Salma Abugideiri, LPC; Aneesah Nadir, PhD; Sameera Ahmed, PhD; Zaied Abbassi, Madiha Tahseen, PhD; Sarrah AbuLughod, MA; and Nadeem Siddiqi, PhD. This toolkit was vetted by a variety of experts with professional and personal experience in marriage preparation. We pray that you find it beneficial.



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Zakat eligibility of The FYI

The Family & Youth Institute, or The FYI, is a well-known Muslim organization in the United States. It works to promote mental health and wellness by strengthening and empowering individuals, families, and communities through research and education. It has been working for many years to bring Islamic perspectives to understanding and promoting mental health in our communities.

It is dedicated to serving and supporting Muslims – safeguarding our deen, our families, and our future generations. Therefore, the work of The FYI comes in the category of ‘fi sabeelillah’ or the Path of Allah, within the eight categories where Zakat money can be used.

Zakah expenditures are only for the poor and for the needy and for those employed for it and for bringing hearts together [for Islam] and for freeing captives [or slaves] and for those in debt and for the cause of Allah, and for the [stranded] traveler – an obligation [imposed] by Allah, And Allah, is Knowing and Wise.”
(Al-Tawbah 9:60)

According to scholars who widen the meaning of fee sabeelillah to include any activities that promote Islamic growth, The FYI is indeed eligible to receive part of the Zakat funds for its programs and services. I urge Muslims in America to support this organization through their donations, general charity, and through their Zakat. I ask Allah swt to strengthen and guide The FYI to continue its good work in supporting Muslims.

Shaikh Ali Suleiman Ali, PhD

About Shaikh Ali

Sh. Ali Suleiman Ali was born in Ghana where he spent his childhood studying with various Muslim scholars. He then moved to Saudi Arabia and enrolled in the Islamic University of Madina.  He graduated with a degree in both Arabic and Islamic Studies. Dr. Ali went on to complete his Ph.D. in Islamic Studies at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor.

Sh. Ali serves on the Advisory Council of The Family & Youth Institute. He is the Senior Imam and Director of the Muslim Community of Western Suburbs in Canton, Michigan. Additionally, he serves as the Director of Muslim Family Services in Detroit and is a council member of the Fiqh Council of North America (FCNA). He is also a member of the North American Imams Federation (NAIF) and the Association of Muslim Jurists of America (AMJA).